Together but Alone

You really tried your best to make it different. You talked, yelled, cried, listened, you did everything you know to ask for what you need and want, and yet, it always seems to end in an argument or a very loud silence. 

Maybe you tried to create some space, or even give it some time, hoping it will get better, longing to reconnect and be seen again, wishing it will change.

And yet (despite your genuine effort), it didn’t.

You're exhausted. Maybe in pain, feeling so alone even when physically together.  This is not how you imagined it to be when you first met, maybe you didn’t even see it coming.

But it’s here. Maybe it has been for a while now. 

Truth is that on average, couples wait at least 6 years before they reach out for help. 

If you are reading this right now, you might be looking for help. Maybe it’s time. 

It takes so much courage and vulnerability to take the first step, especially if you have been living like that for a while. 

Try and ask yourself these questions: Is this how I want to live my life? Am I willing to try and make it better? Am I open to trying something new? To learn new tools and discover more about me and us and how to make it different? Am I willing to give it a chance? 

If you want to find out more, and ready to take the next step, I invite you to contact me for a free initial 20-minute phone call.

About Couples Therapy

We are wired to connect. Just as human beings have basic needs for food and shelter, we have a basic drive to belong and to form relationships, to love and to feel loved. It’s the reason we seek relationships, and why we bond and get attached. It’s also why feeling alone can be so painful and scary at times. 

Despite the fact that we very much want to be together, the truth is that relationships can be hard and challenging, and when it does not work as planned, we can feel isolated and overwhelmed.

If only we had a manual...

Creating intimacy, connection, and joy in our relationships takes a tremendous amount of courage and commitment, and when you are motivated and ready to do the work, many possibilities unfold.

Couples therapy can be the first step to learn and build your relationship manual.

Is Couples Therapy For Me? 

Seeking relationship therapy isn't just for married couples needing marriage counseling. You don’t have to be married or be part of a “traditional relationship” to seek couples counseling. Perhaps you are a new couple hitting some bumps in the road or a couple who has been together for a while but are struggling to connect.

I recognize that each relationship is unique and rarely looks the same. And I welcome any couple or individual that is seeking my support while striving to be sensitive and aware of cultural issues and differences. 

Sometimes the goal of couples therapy is to revive the relationship, but sometimes it may not be. Some couples attend therapy to discover and choose what they want out of the relationship, and what that looks like for them.

Using individually tailored interventions, I work to create a safe space for couples to process, learn, heal, and grow together.  

How Couples Therapy might help:

• Connect and rebuild safety and trust

• Identify and change patterns of avoidance and withdrawal

• Reduce conflict and improve emotional and physical intimacy

• Learn more effective ways to communicate

• Move past judgment, blame, and defensiveness

• Create a stronger and more resilient relationship

• Process and recover from an affair/ infidelity 

• Explore and heal sexual satisfaction

My work is inspired by: 

• Ellyn Bader -The Couples Institute, Menlo Park

• Terry Real - Relational Life Therapy Training (RLT)

• Esther Perel - a Therapist, Author, and Speaker 

• Sue Johnson - Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

• Stan Tatkin - Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT